Well, I assume, this title would buy me more readers. 😆
Its been really long, i have held a pen in my hands so here I am, strong enough to re-post. Since 6 months we have been in a one sided relationship with the ‘lockdown‘ (Corona loves us, I guess, one hell of a road side romeo). I can imagine how scary K-K-K-Kiran (Shahrukh from the movie – Darr) was, but Co-Co-Co-corona seems no less.
Well this article is neither about Corona nor love, its about how we get caged emotionally by an object or a person and get trapped in our own thoughts leaving the keys with that object or that person. We realize the fact that we are trapped and we actually want to find the keys, but our untrained mind redirects us to the person who has the keys rather than focusing on the keys itself. Why do we forget the fact that even if the keys are with that person we can have duplicates??
But how to train the untrained minds?? No matter how many degrees you hold, or how well reputed company you work with, there is no surety that your brain is trained to define the emotional level to which you should be involved with a person. Say for example you work with a firm, spend ten to twelve hours with your colleague and develop a healthy relation with him/her. No matter how well aware you are that he/she is a colleague and not a regular friend you tend to have expectations. Or you are a student and you have a very healthy relationship with your roommate, you happen to treat her as your family and develop that level of expectation from her. And at some point of time in unfavourable circumstances you get disappointed and hurt and your expectations go for a toss. How to deal with such disappointments??
I personally have seen it all, and have been lucky enough to get less disappointments and have been able to consume the nectar of amazing relationships. But luck will not always be by your side and hence you will have to taste disappointment if you don’t have an eye for why have you come in contact with a person. Demarcating the boundaries in your relationships is of utmost important and an important aspect of your character. You can not treat everyone the same. Its better to train your mind to be able to forecast that what is the motto of your meeting a person, what place can you give him/her in your professional and personal life, where can you go wrong and how can you prevent in maintaining that gap.
Training your mind to handle emotions is as important as is exercising. With emotional fatigue you might get successful but will not be able to drive happiness out of it.
Training your mind emotionally still does not guarantee that you wont get hurt. And getting hurt is an experience which one should not be scared of as it makes you a better performer. While you are hurt you tend to spend more time with yourself, you are unable to concentrate on your regular work and hence buy more time to heal your emotional wounds. You get time to introspect. You are fearless at that very moment as you feel what worst can come up then. And if you tend to channelize your energy well you can actually create a masterpiece in your life. No better motivator than a broken heart. So if you ever FALL in love or any other emotional trauma, deeper the fall is, the thrust to reach heights is higher than the one in normal scenario.
Here I am with an opinion that travel your emotional road with an open eye. But if you fall do not worry, the journey is long enough to heal your wounds. Just dont be afraid to travel.
Be a traveller, but be well prepared!!
Audacity of hope.. 